Saturday, May 21, 2016

Things You Can Do To Brighten Your Day

Honestly, I wasn't quite sure that I was going to be able to even get a post up today, one of the reasons being that I was feeling totally uninspired, but the main reason being that I'm feeling so sick. It's been me and my bed and my tissues for the whole day so far. However, as I was sitting in my bed feeling miserable, I was thinking, what can I do to make this day better? You might have read my post on little things that you can do to make someone smile, but this is a slight variation on that post, about how you can make yourself happier. I'm a huge believer in self-love and self-care, so I find it so important that you do things for yourself. 


Light a candle.

This obviously only works if candles are your thing, but it works for me. Make your sense of smell happy! A lot of the time, the things that make for a good day are not big things, but a combination of a lot of little things. That's not saying that one big thing can have a huge positive effect on your day, but it's important to keep in mind that the little things can still have a great effect on a brighter day. Pick a candle that reflects how you think that you want to feel. Today, I lit a candle with a fresh and fruity scent, because I want to feel more refreshed and rejuvenated. 

Eat something healthy.

While the immediate response when you're in need of a better day would be to go for the fatty comfort foods, it's a different kind of happy that you get when you eat something healthy. Preferably eat something healthy that you like anyways, like your favorite fruit, a fresh salad, or my personal favorite, a smoothie, but whenever I eat something healthy, I feel really good about myself after. It's the feeling after, kind of like a pat on the back for being healthy, that really makes me happy. 

Eat something unhealthy.

Comfort foods can obviously make you feel happy in a different way, after all, they're not called "comfort foods" for nothing, right? If your day isn't looking too hot, then who am I to stand in the way of you treating yourself? Suggestions include ice cream, any fancy pastry, or some rich chocolate, but obviously go for whatever speaks to you. 

Do something productive.

Similarly to the "healthy eating" aftertaste, the same logic stands with productivity. I always feel so accomplished and happy with myself when I do something that I had been meaning to get around to doing and maybe had put it off a bit longer than I should have. Being productive can leave you with a great feeling after your complete your tasks. This is especially effective for brightening your day when you're productive in the morning, because after that, your day can be an adventure, you can do whatever your heart desires!

Work on a passion project.

Like I mentioned previously with putting things off, I often put off passion projects. I get so caught up in things that I have to do and should do that I find that I have little free time. And with that free time, I generally spend it slothing around in my bed with Netflix. However, you can dedicate that time to working on a passion project. I've been wanting to paint more prints so that I can put together a gallery wall of my own work in my room (honestly how cool would that be?!) but I just haven't gotten around to it. They don't call it a passion project for nothing, it's something that is what you're passionate about. When you're doing what you love, you're automatically brightening your day.

Take a walk.

I go on walks all the time, since I have a dog that needs to be walked daily, but most of the time I take my phone with me and try to get through it as soon as possible in order to cram as much as possible into the day. However, there are some days that I go out to walk and I stay off my phone and take my time, which can be so refreshing. I spend so much time indoors that I don't always appreciate nature. The sun can be a huge factor in making you happier, it's scientifically proven! 

Wednesday, May 18, 2016

Moving On From Failure

Remember when I talked about the fear of failure and how we shouldn't let it stop up from our dreams? (If you don't, where have you been?!) However, letting go of the fear of it, does not make failure impossible. The thing about failure is that it's inevitable, no matter what you do. So when we put ourselves out there, feeling vulnerable, and we end up failing, how do we move on from that? 

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When we fail, it feels like it's the end of the world. It feels like you're worthless and untalented and that you will never be able to accomplish anything. There are so many times that I have failed and it felt like I would never be able to succeed. I let it discourage me. In that moment, I felt like I wasn't good enough and I never would be.  It's so easy to fall into that fixed mindset. I get it, those feelings are valid, you're allowed to think that, but you can't let it affect you.

I just recently went through a failure when I applied for something and I didn't get accepted. Honestly, I think that the worst part about it was having to tell other people that I didn't get in, because that made it real. I avoid the topic and I still feel like I'm not good enough, but it's a process. Getting over your failures isn't something that you can just brush off easily, it's like a wound, it heals with time and care. This is why I believe that the first step is mourning.

Step One: Mourning.

I think that the most common misconception about dealing with failure is that you have to not let it affect you and instantly jump back on your feet. However, I believe that you need to let out your emotions. You need to channel your energy into something (or in my case, doing literally nothing and lying in my bed all day) that will make you feel better. I recommend binge-watching Netflix and eating chocolate all day, but do whatever makes you feel better. In my opinion, I think that it's perfectly valid to feel sad. Instead of pushing that sadness away, you need to embrace it before you can let it go. 

Step Two: Acceptance.

After the mourning process, you need to accept it. This is the point that you stop being sad and you start realizing that this is reality. You cannot change the past, so it is best to make peace with it. Back to my example of not getting into the thing that I applied for, I didn't want to talk about it because it reminded me that this was actually happening. In the moment, it feels like a stab of pain, but sometimes your mind doesn't necessarily register the failure right away. You need to accept that this is real. Some things are uncontrollable and as difficult as it is, you need to understand that your failures are not something that you can change. You cannot control your past failures. 

Step Three: The Future.

What does this failure mean for you in the future? While you cannot control your past failures, you can control your future to prevent failure. What steps are you going to take to make that failure a success? This might start with planning a checklist to get the things done that will get you closer to your end goal. It might also mean trying something new and a little different in order to change things up a bit. Take action towards prevention. Think of it as a gameplan. Plan out some plays that will lead you closer to winning the game. On the plus side, you've already eliminated one tactic towards potential success, which means that you're one step closer. 

Step Four: Prove your fixed mindset wrong.

You know that little voice in the back of your head that's saying to you, "You'll never be able to succeed" and "You'll never be good enough," that's your fixed mindset. It's the negativity that will do nothing but pull you down. Prove your fixed mindset wrong. If you let it affect you, eventually the fixed mindset will rule your life. Think on the bright side and get into that growth mindset. Think positively. Once your gameplan is set, put it into action and prove everyone wrong. Show you and everyone else that yes, you can do it. As cheesy as this sounds, Nelson Mandela once said that "It always seems impossible until it's done." No matter what you do, if you're stuck in your growth mindset, everything will seem impossible. Success will seem unreachable. However, it won't be impossible forever. If you give up, then it will always be impossible. With your growth mindset, you can succeed. The thing about failure is that you can either let it discourage you or you can let it fuel you for greatness. 

While the truth is that failure can be a good thing, the reality is that it doesn't always feel like a good thing. However, you're not alone. We all go through failure and the truth is that it hurts. While I would like to believe that it will immediately empower me and propel me to success, coping with failure is a process. Honestly, today I'm still not really over my recent failure, but I know that I will be, someday. There are no magic solutions for coping with failure, but these are some things that will hopefully make it a little better. I think that the only thing that you can do when you're dealing with failure is wait it out. Rome wasn't built in a day. 

Failure can pull you into the darkness, making you feel unworthy and pathetic, but it can also do the opposite, motivate you to try again and again and again until one day, you do succeed. Which will you choose? 

Monday, May 16, 2016

Tips for Dealing with Greasy Hair

I have always struggled with greasy hair, but recently I have been able to try some new tricks in order to deal with my greasy hair. The long term solution to this problem is to wash your hair less entirely, but while you're in the process of stretching that no-washing time, here are some tips for dealing with it.


Saturday, May 14, 2016

Spring Stripes

Recently, it has been warming up slowly. The thing about the weather lately is that the warm weather has been coming in waves. It'll be warm for a bit and then pull back to the cold weather and then repeat. However, this day happened to be warm for a change. I went out to take pictures with my friend Hannah and it was so nice to have the warm weather. Although it was pretty windy, it was definitely a fun little photo adventure. 

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At first, I was thinking of dressing up a bit nicer now that the weather has warmed up, but instead of going for the dresses, I figured that I would opt for a more casual look, since I generally dress it up quite often. What I love about this look is how minimal it is. It's casual and simple, but it still has nice polished look. The chambray pocket and lining around the collar adds a nice touch to the otherwise simple navy stripes. This one is from Forever 21, but it's pretty old, so I found a similar shirt here. I paired it with jeans because it was simple and it kept the look casual. Along with the shirt, I'm also wearing this gold necklace from Charming Charlie. I've been wearing this necklace a lot to add a little pop of gold and accessorize a bit, but not to the point that it's overly bold. 

I paired the look with my black smoking slippers from Nordstrom (the brand is Dune London) because I love how they go with literally everything, this outfit included. These ones are super similar to the ones that I have and are also around the same price. If you're looking for some versatile flats that are perfect for casual wear or for formal wear, these ones fit the needs perfectly! I generally wear them casually, but if necessary, I'm able to dress them up and style them a bit more formal. Lastly, I carried by Longchamp tote bag. Honestly, the only reason why I brought along this bag was to carry around my camera, because it's bigger than my crossbody, but it also adds a bit of an accessory as well. It's a great bag for if you're someone like me that likes to bring everything and anything. What can I say? I like to be prepared and this bag gives me plenty of room to be prepared and bring anything that I might need. It also accommodates my camera as well as a water bottle and my laptop if necessary.

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What I'm Wearing

Top: Forever 21 (similar) // Jeans: Gap // Necklace: Charming Charlie 
Bag: Longchamp // Shoes: Nordstrom (similar)

Wednesday, May 11, 2016

How to Make the Most of Your Wardrobe

I can't tell you how many times that I've looked through my plentiful wardrobe and thought to myself, "I have nothing to wear." Honestly, this is a daily struggle. I'm always looking for new clothes because I feel like I have nothing to wear. However, that's not the case. Recently, I've been trying to make the most of my wardrobe and today I'm going to share what I've found really helps me stretch my wardrobe to the fullest.

How to Make the Most of Your Wardrobe | Sunny Rebecca

Wear something that you haven't worn in a while.

A shirt that you haven't worn for 3 years? Guess what? When you wear it, everyone will think that it's new. The other day I wore a shirt that I hadn't worn for at least 3 or 4 years and I got so many compliments. Sure, your fashion taste may have varied a little, but you can always take something old and restyle it to fit your new current fashion taste. Put a new perspective on something that maybe wasn't your favorite piece and make it your new favorite.

Swap clothes.

Feeling tired of the same old clothes? Swap some clothes with a sibling or a friend for a bit of a refresh. You can pick a few pieces of clothing that you don't wear too often and switch them with some clothes that your friend or sibling doesn't wear too often. My sister gave me a sweater that she doesn't really wear that often and I wore it yesterday, earning me so many compliments. Apparently I "look good in green" and a lot of people noticed that I had changed it up a bit.

Get rid of clothes that you don't wear.

I have so many clothes that I don't even wear anymore, but when I get to the thought of getting rid of them, my immediate thought is that I might wear it someday. Except the thing is, I never end up wearing it. Get rid of the clothes that you don't actually wear so that you can make way for new ones. I generally donate my clothes, but you can sell them if you need some extra cash for new ones.

Try some new combinations.

I don't know about you, but I generally have some go-to outfit combinations that I always wear. For example, I'll wear the exact same outfit, from the sweater to the jeans to the shoes, every week and I'll continue to repeat the same outfit. Change it up a bit! Pair your favorite top with a skirt for a change or maybe put a sweater over a flannel for a new perspective on the same old things.

Go back to the basics.

Style a plain t-shirt with some pants with a bold print on them or style a plain sweater with a glamorous statement necklace. Basics can go a lot farther than you think. Pull out the basics and make them look anything but basic with some accent pieces or allowing you to pull out bold prints to pair with them. This is a great way to style pieces that don't match with things as easily, like if they have distracting patterns or bright colors. 

Monday, May 9, 2016

Best of the Internet

Last week has had surprisingly low stress and I'm hoping that this week will as well. Recently I've been able to succeed in something that I had wanted and also get past something else that was really stressing me out, which has been leaving a positive effect on my life. So today I look forward. I'm hoping that this week I can really channel my energy into creating new content, maybe even some videos for Mondays. Whatever I'm going to do this week, I'm feeling refreshed and inspired. Time to take this week and make it fantastic. 

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One // Overcoming the Fear of Not Being Good Enough

Honestly, I suffer from this feeling daily. I'm terrified of doing things that are risky because I fear that I'm not good enough, that I don't have what it takes to succeed. The thing is that everyone has their own insecurities, worries that they're not good enough. This post covers why we feel this way and how to tackle it, because the truth is that you are good enough.

Two // How to Make Friends as an Adult

Remember those days in elementary school where you would talk to someone new and instantly find yourself with a new friend? I wish that it was still that easy today. I feel like the more that I grow up, the harder it is to make friends. It's not only because I'm insanely selective, but I'm shy. This post covers some things that you can do to make some new friends, you're always surrounded by potential friends.

Three // Shoot Tips: Don't Pose, Direct!

I'm always looking for new ways to tackle a photoshoot for outfit posts. It's just so awkward to just stand around and smile. There's a lot more that goes into a photo then you think, much more planning to it. In order to make a photo look authentic and real, you have to figure out how to relax and post right. While I'm definitely not a photographer, I love a good portrait shoot. This post puts a new perspective on posing because it's a little like acting, stepping into the role of the kind of person that the photo should embody. A photo is a snapshot in time, and in order to portray a certain look, you have to embrace that look.

Saturday, May 7, 2016

Summer Skincare

I would be lying if I said that I was great at taking care of my skin. I'm lazy and I actually don't take care of my skin as well as I should. The thing about skincare is that I get really invested in it around the winter, because if I don't heavily apply moisturizers and scrubs, then my skin will get immensely dry to the point that it's not just something for appearance, but it will start to hurt me physically. I'm not kidding, when I visited the Grand Canyon, the air around there was so dry that my skin physically hurt. However, when winter comes to an end and we reach summer, I begin to neglect skincare, which is partly one of the reasons why my skin gets so much worse during the wintertime. The summer is a time where there's a lot of harsh sunlight, so it's super important not to neglect skincare. 

Summer Skincare | Sunny Rebecca

While I'm not sure that lip products really fall into the "skincare" category, I'm lumping them in anyways. If you were ever to ask me what my number one most necessary beauty/skincare product would be, it would be lip balm. Either that, or face soap. Anyways, you get the point. Having a great lip moisturizer is so important. I used to take ages to get through just one tube, but throughout the past few years, I've been using these up so quickly because I apply and reapply so often. 
These are two lip products that I have used before to moisturize my lips. I just got the L'Occitaine lip balm recently, so I really can't say much about it except for the fact that it smells amazing. This is the vanilla one, but they have so many other incredible scents as well. As for the Burt's Bees lip balm, all of the Burt's Bees lip balms work fantastically. They have a nice thick consistency and are super moisturizing. They each also have great scents and a wide variety of them to choose from, not to mention that they're an all natural product. Honestly, how great is that?

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Again, this is another thing that I'm not exactly sure if it fits into the "skincare" category, but I think that it's close enough. We usually focus a lot on the face when we talk skincare, but your body still deserves some skin love as well! I've recently been using this Soap and Glory Smoothie Star Breakfast Scrub. It's a pretty gentle product, unless you scrub hard, but the scrub is a lot more fine than coarse. It also has this incredible maple scent and I love maple scents. When it says "great maple scent" on the product packaging, it really means great maple scent. Not to mention that this retro packaging is adorable! It really reminds me of the Benefit cosmetics packaging (also totally swoon-worthy) because of the style of it and it's adorable names for their products. 

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I generally moisturize at night because that way my face doesn't look all oily during the day, since lotion tends to do that to me. I recently got this sample for the Estee Lauder nightwear moisturizer and I am loving it. It's a thick consistency, which I like in a moisturizer, since I have such dry skin. This is a great product for people that are lazy like me and just slap on some lotion before bed whenever they can. 

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Protecting your face from the sun is also super important during the summer. Yes, you can wear sunscreen all the time, but let's be real, no one really does that. For people that generally wear makeup on a day to day basis, this is the perfect two in one product for the summer to protect your face from sun damage. A BB cream with SPF is perfect for a bit of coverage, but also some moisturizing and sun protectant. I've been using the Smashbox camera ready BB cream, which as SPF 35, which is generally higher than other makeup products with SPF. It's a great consistency and has really nice coverage, but not to the point that it's unnatural and overpowering. 

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Summer Skincare | Sunny Rebecca

Last up, a scrub for the face. I love the Origins modern friction nature's gentle dermabrasion to keep my skin soft. I love the feeling that I get after I use it, it's such a refreshing feeling. It's a bit more coarse, but it's still pretty gentle on the skin, depending on how aggressively you exfoliate. A scrub is super important, because it strips the dry skin so that your face is softer, plus it allows the lotion to really work its wonders a bit more. 

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What will you be doing to take care of your skin this summer?