Saturday, January 23, 2016

The Fear of Missing Out

I've been seeing the phrase "FOMO" all around the internet lately. I had just recently learned what it stood for and immediately loved it. If you didn't know already, FOMO stands for the fear of missing out. In this modern day and age, everything we do can be shared with the world with just the click of a button. While this has its perks, it also has some negative aspects.
The thing about the fear of missing out is that it can be a blessing and a curse. Yes, it encourages you to get out of bed and do things with your life, but sometimes it makes you feel obligated to do things that you don't necessarily want to do, solely due to the fear of missing out. So how can we overcome the fear of missing out so that we live a life full of things that we genuinely want to do?


Remember that it's okay to say "no" sometimes.

While it's great to say "yes" to new things, don't be afraid to say "no" every once in a while. There will be other parties, there will be other concerts, and there will be other opportunities. If this isn't the opportunity for you, don't just take it because you feel like you should, take it because you genuinely want to.

Ask yourself whether or not you're actually going because you want to. 

Let's say that there's a huge social event coming up, but you really don't want to go. It's tempting to think about how you might be missing out if you don't go. But what are you actually missing? So yeah, maybe you're missing a couple games and some blurry party instagram photos, but you have to think about what you're signing up for. It can be tempting to go because everyone else is going and you know that you will miss out the next morning when the party pictures are all over Facebook, but are you going for you or the pictures? Only go to things if you think that you'll have a good time.


Imagine if you were to look back on your life in this moment. 

Do you ever have those moments where you do something even though you know that you'll totally regret it tomorrow? Imagine if it was a year later and you were looking back on your life. Would you regret splurging on a vacation for Spring break with your friends? Or would it be something that you have no regrets on? You should imagine the outcome of your choices so that you can pick the one that will have the most desirable result. Make sure that you live life with no regrets.

Take a social media break.

Social media documents all the amazing things that people are doing in the world and the fun that people are having. However, if you're the person sitting at home in your pajamas watching Netflix, it may make you a little envious to see a picture of your classmates and peers at a killer party that you weren't invited to. (There's nothing wrong with not being invited, you can have a party for one!) It might make you envy them and wish that you were there, even if you aren't sure that you will even have a good time there.If you're feeling an intense amount of fear over the thought of missing out, avoid having to see the photos of everything you missed by powering off completely. While social media can be great, it also has its cons and can make you get caught up in someone else's life more than your own.

Let go of comparisons.

This is so not easy. It becomes natural to compare yourself to someone else, but it's something that does nothing but hurt you. The fear of missing out often stems from comparisons. Cathleen (Classy Cathleen) wrote a post about the comparison trap, and I think that it absolutely relates to the fear of missing out. You compare yourself to other people and feel like you are wasting your life away. Don't let someone else's success make you feel bad about your life, because they are a completely different person and at a different step in the journey to success. So what if Taylor Swift is traveling around the world? Focus on you and your life. Why waste your time being envious of someone else's life when you could be making yours even better?

It's okay to not attend a party or skip a social event. It's not the end of the world. At the end of the day, it does not matter what events you were at, it only matters if you are happy with your life and what you have accomplished. Yes, it's great to go to huge social events, but it isn't worth it if you aren't going to enjoy yourself. The only thing that is important is that you do things that you want to do instead of doing things just so that you can be as successful or as social as your peers. All you need to do is live your life with no regrets as you do the things that make you happy. By doing that, you won't be missing out, but you'll be thriving as your best possible you.

1 comment:

  1. This was such a well written post Rebecca! I definitely agree that we shouldn't feel obligated to attend things and we should know when to say no.
    xo, Syd
    anchoredinthesouth.com

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