Saturday, April 23, 2016

Following My Own Advice

I had it all planned out. I originally planned to do a outfit post today. I had the time mapped out and the look decided. Even the weather was perfect, nice mid-sixties, where it's not too cold to go out for a while, but not so hot that the lighting is harsh. However, I ended up not going out to take pictures for the blog. And why was that? I needed to focus on me.


Last week I talked about the Need for Productivity, and that need was definitely speaking to me that day. Every element of planning was set for that day and the time frame was absolutely perfect. However, I just wasn't feeling it. Of course, there are good days, but there are also bad days. And that day just so happened to be the latter. All I wanted was to curl up in my bed and pull out some Netflix and some comfort food. To not have to worry about anything, but the need for productivity was tolling on me. I was trying to force creativity. 

So I want to build off of the previous post about the Need for Productivity and venture into the line that separates healthy productivity from unhealthy productivity and how to deal with it. While I may know that I'm pushing myself, against my own feelings and emotions, that doesn't necessarily mean that I'll handle it well. I could have gone out and taken some nice outfit pictures and posted a clean and polished post. However, I'm writing this post today not because I was lazy, but because I needed to put myself first. My blog is important to me. My schoolwork is important to me. But most of all, I am the most important, no matter how selfish that sounds.

I realized that I had been a bit of a hypocrite about the things that I say on my blog. It's not because I'm intentionally saying things that I don't actually put into action in my own life, it's because it's easier said than done. It's not easy to step out of your comfort zone and ignore your fear of failure, it's not easy to throw away the art of pretending to have a life, and it's not easy to overcome the fear of missing out. So today I'm taking my own advice, which is actually harder than it seems.

So how can we start to stop "saying" and "start doing?" Like I mentioned before, it's a lot easier said than done. I can spit out all of the advice that I can possibly come up with, but that doesn't necessarily mean that I will follow it. So today I want to follow my own advice with this post and share my tips for following your own advice.

WWYD?

Ever heard of those acronyms like WWJD, meaning, "What would Jesus do?" or other ones, like WWBD, meaning, "What would Beyonce do?" The acronym that I propose to you is WWYD, that stands for, "What would YOU do?" What I mean by this is that if you were someone else, what would you tell yourself? What advice would you give yourself? For example, there was an opportunity that I was considering going after recently, but it was a little out of my comfort zone. I knew that I would tell myself that I just had the fear of failure and that I should not let it stop me. Deep down, I knew what the answer was. I knew that I should step out of my comfort zone and go for it, because that is the advice that I would tell someone else. And although it's scary, I know that this is this best thing for me to do. I'm following my own advice for once.

Will this make me happy?

This has recently been my go-to question for anything. Whether it's deciding whether or not to attend a party (and instead having a party for one!) or it's a bigger decision like whether to apply for a summer program, this is the foolproof question for deciding what to do next in life. That's the end goal, right? To be happy. The advice that I dish out is meant to make people happier. Whether it means doing more in life or just accepting yourself. Ask yourself whether or not things will make you happy, because 99.9% of the time, your advice will make you happier. 


This person that knows you best is you.

Obviously, anyone can give advice. Maybe it can be a school counselor or even a random stranger, but you have to understand that they might not truly understand you. I'm not saying that their advice isn't fantastic, but I'm trying to say that your own advice can be the most valuable advice that you could ever take. While a school counselor might be well versed in advising, but you know yourself better than anyone else. The advice that I give is based on personal experiences, so what better way to advice to apply than advice that's basically tailored to people like you. Not just that, the advice is tailored to you, your personality, your flaws, everything about you. The beginning to following your own advice starts with valuing what you have to offer. 

Today I vow to start following my own advice. Honestly, do I really need all of those self-help books when I have myself? The thing is, following your own advice isn't easy, but I'm going to do it anyways, because my wisdom is worth something and I'm going to make the most of it. So yeah, maybe I don't have a fancy outfit post, but this was the right choice. I focused on me and followed my own advice. And guess what? It was worth it. 


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