Wednesday, July 20, 2016

Why (and How) You Can Be Your Own Fairy Godmother

Everyone has heard of the famous fairy tales. They're classics for a reason. Whether it's from the Disney films, the original storybooks, or just through the tradition of sharing stories through the word of mouth, everyone has heard of these classics. The magical creatures and the happily ever afters transport you into another world, a fantasy world. It's a chance to escape reality. Although I would like believe in fairy tales, the sad thing is that they aren't true. There are no fairies, there are no princes waiting to sweep you off your feet, there are no magical creatures, and there are no fairy godmothers. However, just because fairy tales are fantasy, doesn't mean that happily ever afters aren't. Maybe it won't be as picturesque as in the storybooks, but happily ever afters do exist. Just because you don't have a fairy godmother to turn you into a gorgeous princess, doesn't mean that you can't live like one. 
I feel like in fairy tales, we often focus on the princesses, since let's be real, little girls and boys (let's not gender stereotype!) LOVE princesses. All of the favorite fairy tales in Disney movies and a ton of story books involve princesses. We're pretty much training to be attracted to the princess. However, I want to put attention on the unsung hero of the fan-favorite, Cinderella. (there are fairy godmothers in other fairy tales, but this is the most famous representation) I believe that the fairy godmother is a pretty cool gal. The fairy godmother may seem like a side character in Cinderella's story, but let's be real, the fairy godmother was the real MVP. She helped to make Cinderella's dreams come true and guides her along her journey. My new philosophy is not to aim to be a princess, but to be more like a fairy godmother. Why bother waiting around for a prince when you could be helping people and also making your own dreams come true instead? Maybe it's my inner feminist speaking, but I don't want to wait around for a prince and I instead want to focus on me and my personal dreams. So what better way to do that than to be my own personal fairy godmother?

So first things first, why would we want to be more like the fairy godmother? The fairy godmother is the kind of person that dreams big and delivers on those. Cinderella said that she wanted to go to the ball. The fairy godmother understood that, but she went above and beyond. The carriage, the dress, the slippers, okay, maybe she slacked a little on the midnight expiration, but hey, we're not all perfect. The point is that instead of fulfilling things halfway, she does entirely. She helps to guide people when they need help, which is where she got that "godmother" part. So why should you be your own fairy godmother? I'm sick of waiting around for things to just happen. I'm not getting any younger, after all. I know that we sometimes believe that our prince charming or a savior will come to help us. We believe that someone, even if it is a fairy godmother, will come to our rescue. So instead of waiting for my fairy godmother to arrive, why not just be my own? 

Find your own magic.

Unfortunately, we don't have the abilities that a fairy godmother has, meaning, we don't have magical powers, but that doesn't mean that we can't still work a little magic. I think that everyone has a little magic with them, we all have our own special talents, things that make us unique. Although I'm sure that lots of people out there are groaning and saying, "I don't have any special talents," that just means that you haven't found them yet. Honestly, I think that the best way to go when you want to discover what you can do is to step out of your comfort zone. Ever since I've started stepping out of my comfort zone, I've been discovering new things that I love. For example, blogging. I originally was nervous about blogging because it totally puts myself out there. However, stepping out of my comfort zone with blogging has led me to discover new passions, or the magic in me.

It's all about finding your talents. Maybe it's not as clear as you'd like to be, I mean, we can't all be science prodigies or popstars or mega-athletes. I'm not saying that it's not possible for you to be those things, believe me, it's anything but. What I'm trying to say is that maybe you're not good at all of the popular things. Just because you're not talented at something that most people tend to be talented in, doesn't necessarily mean that you don't have a talent. You simply have to discover it. Try out things that you would never consider or the lesser known things. Who knows? Maybe you'll discover a bit of magic within you.

Leave a trail of magic wherever you go. 

By this, I mean that you should spread kindness and share the love. Try to bring out the best in people, help them discover their magic, and use a little of your talents to be someone else's fairy godmother, even if it is just for a second. I don't mean that you have to take on someone to mentor them, even if it's just the tiniest bit of magic, it can still work its wonders. Maybe it's just telling someone that they look great today. Maybe it's doing a favor. Or maybe it's just holding the door open for a stranger. Anything that makes someone smile and makes their day just a little bit better. It's like a way of giving back.

Dare to dream.

I know that I mentioned previously that fairytales aren't real. And as sad as that is, it's true. However, just because there are no prince charmings and fabulous castles waiting for us, doesn't mean that we still can't dream about things that feel like they're out of reach. You can still dream, you can still have aspirations, even if they seem as impossible (or maybe more) than a fairytale. The difference between fairytale dreams and dreams in real life is what you do with them. You have a choice, you can either wait around for a fairy godmother to make those dreams to come true, or you can be your own fairy godmother and make them reality today. There is a difference between dreamers and dream chasers. Dreamers leave them as dreams, things that are only true in their imaginations. I'd be lying if I said that I never did that. There are about a million things that I have dreamed about and never acted upon. However, there's another type of people, dream chasers. These people turn their dreams into goals. Things that they will relentlessly pursue. Be bold. Be daring. Work hard, because in real life, you can't become a princess just by putting on a pretty dress. You need to work for your goals.

Be optimistic.

Okay, maybe the midnight expiration wasn't that great on the fairy godmother's part. However, she remained optimistic. Some people think that being optimistic is like going in with impossibly high expectations. However, that's not really the case. When you're optimistic, you believe that there's a possibility of success. It's being hopeful. The fairy godmother didn't know for sure that Cinderella was going to meet a prince and fall in love with him and she didn't really expect it either. She had hope that the night was going to go well, that's all. I think that one of the best things that you can do to really enjoy life is to look at things with a positive outlook, a growth mindset. You can look at things and say to yourself, "I can do it. And if I can't, I'll try anyways." Just because it may feel like there's an expiration on your growing success, doesn't mean that you should let your doubts plague your mind.

So maybe fairytales aren't real. But are the ideas behind them real? Absolutely. Fairytales are all about things that seem impossible but become reality anyways. Maybe there aren't any genies to grant your wishes or singing animals to do your chores. However, there are dragons to slay. There are things in your life that you will have to overcome. Roadblocks, failures, confusion, these are all metaphorical dragons that are just waiting to be defeated. But how can you do that if you're still playing the role of damsel in distress? You can't just wait for a fairy godmother to swoop in and save the day, you have to be your own, because you're in charge of your life. All you need to do is use a little magic. Or in this case, determination. 

1 comment:

  1. Oh my goodness, this post is so adorable Rebecca!!
    xo, Syd
    anchoredinthesouth.com

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